Every transgender girl is different, so I will only talk about myself. Being as a transgender supporter, I have many transgender friends and I have been dedicating myself to many transgender organizations. I think I have some valuable knowledge to share.
First of all, let’s get straight with something: If you are someone who takes pleasure in ts dating to satisfy your homosexual or bisexual fantasies, you come to the wrong place. You need to understand this: transgender women are like every other woman in this world. No heterosexual woman would want a homosexual man and no bisexual woman want to date someone who consider her as a man. A bisexual woman would want to date another woman. A straight woman would want to date a straight man. She might be willing to go out with a bisexual male, but obviously, she is not able to fully satisfy his sexual desire, because she is not a man.
Therefore, if you see a transgender female as a ladyboy or a shemale, which are rude words, or a woman with “extra thing”, then you completely ignored one fact, that is, transgender females are not male in every aspect of their lives and that is the truth.
Some people might say women do not have dick, right? Yes and no. transgender women are born like that, but they are females. What makes people men or women? Genitals? If you are a man and if your penis will be cut tomorrow, will you be a woman? No, of course. As a matter of fact, gender identification comes from the brain, instead of genitals. Some people bear male body and female mind, while some does otherwise.
My brain and my sexual identity are both female, while my body is vague. It looks more feminine from the outside with clothes on while more masculine inside. I hate the fact that I have penis. I am disgusted by it the minute I see it hanging there. I am a woman and so are the other women I know. But all of us have the same concern: our sexual identity. We know that no matter how feminine we are from the appearance, there is still a small part of me and small part of people don’t approve it. We know that even though we spend a fortune to have our body changed by surgeries, we can never be exactly the same with other cisgender women. Pathetic, right?
So if you ask what we want, there is only one answer, we want to be treated and recognized as female, even though in deep heart, we know it very well that we can never be 100% female, but we do want to be treated as one.